Finding the way, together

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Are you finding the relationships in your life challenging? We’re here to help you strengthen your relationships by finding the way together.

Counselling Is For Everyone

Affordable counselling sessions are available. Contact us today and ask.

Everyone has ups and downs in their relationship. Most of us try to work through issues on our own. When matters come to a head and you can’t move forward, we’re here to help

What it is

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Whether you’re having problems in your relationship or you’d just like to understand each other better, talking things through with one of our counsellors can make a real difference.

Relationship Counselling is for everyone and any relationship. We can help you strengthen your relationships.

How it helps

Our experience is that having a conversation with a neutral and non-judgemental third party, can really make a difference. 

Our counsellors provide a caring and supportive space to help find a way through any difficulties you may be facing in your relationships. 

We provide a confidential and constructive environment where we can find a way together. 

What to expect

The first step is to get in touch with us and find out more about how we can help you. We hope you will decide to take it further and we will then arrange a first appointment at a time to suit you, either face to face or online. 

During the first session, your counsellor will get to know you and ask some questions about you and what your hope is for the counselling. Together we agree the next step.  Contact us today. 

Contact us today

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Here’s what some of our clients had to say about counselling at SearchLight:

I thought she was fantastically good at getting someone to change their behaviour

Rob

It was too late for us, but we’ve stayed friends and I don’t think that would have happened without them

Andy

She was very good at giving us the tools to take away and work with

Jane

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Please note names have been changed for reasons of confidentiality

Our Relationship Counsellors

Aiza

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Andrea

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Christina

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Daniela

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Helen

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Joanne

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Phil

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Suzie

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Vanessa

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Vivienne

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Our core services

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Relationship Counselling

Relationship Counselling

Help for couples and individuals who are worried about their relationship.
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Individual Counselling

Individual Counselling

Help for people who have concerns about their wellbeing.
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Children’s Counselling

Children’s Counselling

Help for children aged 5 to 10 whose worries are affecting their school and/or home life
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Counselling for Young People

Counselling for Young People

Help for children and young people (aged 10-25) whose worries are affecting their wellbeing.
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Family Counselling

Family Counselling

Help for families when problems are affecting family relationships.
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Sex Therapy

Sex Therapy

Help for couple and individuals to achieve happy and satisfying sex lives.
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Mediation

Mediation

Help for separating and divorced couples to reach a pre-court agreement on the practical matters.
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Aiza

Qualifications

BSC in Psychology. Relate Cert. Couple Counselling PGC Counselling Supervision. 

Specialities

Relationships. Culturally Sensitive Approach. 

About me

 I have a background in Psychology and mental health and wellbeing support to individuals and families. I aim to provide a warm, non-judgemental and supportive space where clients feel comfortable exploring their experiences and relationships. I value culturally sensitive and inclusive practice. 

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Andrea

Qualifications

Certificate in Marital and Couple Counselling (Theory and Practice – Relate) • Post Graduate Diploma of Relationship Therapy (Psychosexual Therapy) from Doncaster University  • Professional Associate of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapy (COSRT)

Specialities

I specialise in relationship counselling with couples and individuals. Psychosexual Therapy with couples and individuals including support with issues of sexual compulsivity and addiction. I have worked with many people for whom violence and abuse have been a feature of their relationship and I am experienced in working with these issues.

About me

I originally trained in a psychodynamic model of counselling and my PST qualification is CBT based. I have studied systemic, narrative and many other models as part of my on-going professional development so I would now describe myself as having an integrative practice. I have over 20 years experience as a counsellor.

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Christina

Qualifications

PgDip, MA Counselling & Psychotherapy; Diploma Supervision

Specialities

Systemic, Narrative & Psychodynamic theories.

About me

Building a strong therapeutic relationship is always my starting point. I strive to support my clients in making sense of their own unique stories by exploring their past, understanding the present and finding a future with positive changes. I provide a confidential space, listening to my clients in a non-judgemental manner. I work integratively and adapt my practice to the needs and hopes of my clients. I see young people, adults on their own or with their partner and families. I also supervise.

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Daniela

Qualifications

  • Psychology (BSc Honours)
  • L5 Diploma in Couple Counselling – Systemic and Psychodynamic Approach
  • Certified Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner
  • NCFE CACHE Certificate in Understanding Children and Young People’s Mental Health
  • NCFE CACHE Certificate In Understanding Mental Health First Aid and Mental Health Advocacy In the Workplace
  • BPS membership

Specialities

I originally trained in psychodynamic and systemic approaches. I now also incorporate other modalities in my work. I am an integrative therapist with over 18  years experience as a relationship counsellor.

About me

I support couples and individuals in navigating challenges by providing a safe, non-judgmental space and guiding them to find their own solutions. I work with clients to understand underlying patterns and unhelpful beliefs, improve communication, and resolve conflicts. Together, we focus on identifying issues, enhancing problem-solving, and setting healthier relationship goals. I have experience of addressing issues such as infidelity, trust, family dynamics, separation and communication breakdowns. 

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Helen

Qualifications

MA OXON BA OXON Relate Cert. Couple Counselling PGC Counselling Supervision

Specialities

Relationships • ND • LGBTQ++

About me

Since qualifying with Relate in 2000, I have worked with many clients looking for support with their relationships and with life in general. I am an Integrative Practitioner and a Supervisor.

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Joanne

Qualifications

I have a Masters degree which centred on group and individual psychotherapy. I have several postgraduate certificates – in couple counselling, family counselling and working with neurodiverse adults and children.

Specialities

I have a lot of experience helping clients affected by:

  • childhood adversity
  • relationship difficulties
  • loss
  • addiction and harmful behaviour 
  • anger issues such as rage or avoidance of confrontation
  • control and coercion
  • anxiety
  • depression
  • stress and lack of coping skills
  • low self-worth
  • communication problems
  • domestic abuse
  • dyslexia
  • ND 
  • family and parenting issues
  • a range of 12-step recovery programs

I work with an integrative approach, utilising the variety of models I have studied, from systemic, psychodynamic and person-centred perspectives to narrative therapy, compassion-focused therapy or solution-focused therapy. I also employ somatic practices emerging from neuroscience.

About me

I always tailor my methods to suit each client’s unique needs and goals. I am sensitive to diversity and believe wholeheartedly in the power of self-compassion.

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Phil

Qualifications

CPCAB Level 5 Diploma in Relationship Counselling

Specialities

Addiction and recovery – including drugs, alcohol, pornography and other process addictions. This includes thinking about the origins of anxiety.
Whilst I do not think medically, addiction is medically considered as an ‘anxiety disorder’.

Attachment theory and its impact on our adult relationships.

About me

I have worked for almost 20 years within addiction treatment, recovery and other support roles. This has been across different settings, within both the third sector and the NHS, and has included residential as well as open access services.

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Suzie

Qualifications

L5 Diploma Relationship Counselling Relate National Training   

Specialities

  • Adult counselling
  • Relationship counselling 
  • Person Centred Counselling 
  • Systemic Therapy 
  • Psychodynamic Therapy 
  • Solution focused Therapy 
  • Single Session Therapy

About me

My therapeutic approach is integrative, drawing on a range of approaches and techniques that allow me to tailor each session to the unique needs, strengths, and goals of the adults I work with. Whether people are experiencing difficulties with communication, conflict, anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, stress, or major life transitions, I believe that healing begins through genuine connection, empathic listening, and collaborative exploration.

I support people in navigating conflict in healthier ways, communicating more openly, and working towards healing and repair following relational ruptures. I am experienced in helping people build resilience, identify patterns that may be holding them back, and develop practical skills that support long-term emotional well-being and meaningful change. 

I hold Accredited Registrant Membership of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (MNCPS Acc.) and work in accordance with their ethical and professional standards.

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Vanessa

Qualifications

Relate National Training – Levels 4 & 5 in Counselling (2017) •
Ongoing CPD courses (including Relational Life Institute training with Terry Real, 2025) • Registered with MBACP (2020 – 2025)

Specialities

I specialise in integrative therapy, drawing from a range of traditional therapeutic models to create a personalised and flexible session for each person. Rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach, I tailor my methods to the unique needs, goals, and experiences of the individual or couple I’m working with.

My key Skills & Areas of Expertise:

Individual and couples counselling

Conflict resolution and communication skills

Supporting people through betrayal, repair, and relational healing

Coaching in healthy relationship patterns

Empathic listening and trust-building

Ethical and professional practice (MBACP registered)

I am committed to ongoing professional development through regular CPD and advanced training. I have extensive experience supporting adults from diverse backgrounds and life situations, with a strong grounding in both individual and couple counselling approaches.

About me

Experienced and compassionate Relationship Counsellor working with both couples and individuals. Skilled in guiding people through betrayal, conflict, communication breakdowns, and relationship repair. Known for building a rich “toolbox” of therapeutic approaches and coaching clients in the art of relationships — enabling transformative improvements not only within partnerships, but also in family and personal wellbeing. Registered with BACP and committed to ongoing professional development.

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Vivienne

Qualifications

Diploma in Relationship Counselling

Specialities

I specialise in communication

About me

I have a background in therapeutic community, learning disability and professional theatre. I work with a range of relationship issues including communication, self esteem, anxiety, trauma, loss and family history. I would draw from a range of therapeutic approaches.